After having blogged my last post, I couldn’t get this question out of my mind. Why is it that so many men are stereotyped as sexual mongrels? And if this really were true, then why is it the “nice guy” finishes last?
Well, after goggling for answers, I have found something that has somewhat answered these question.
According to justaguything.com is the top 5 reasons why:
1) Jerks are self-centered: Unlike the nice guy, one of the big things a Jerk has going for him is that he really doesn’t care about other people. In fact, his focus is almost entirely on his own pleasures, thoughts, and feelings.
Because of this, when he sees something he wants, he goes after it! In contrast, the nice guy is “intimidated” to approach the girl because he does care about her feelings. This however, also causes him not to talk to her the way he would talk to other people normally.
2) Jerks aren’t afraid to approach women: The most important step in any relationship is… communication. So many people, not just nice guys, are afraid to talk to somebody they are attracted to. The jerk however, doesn’t hesitate because he doesn’t care. This gives the jerks more chances to get what he wants from his target.
3) Jerks don’t censor themselves: Lets be honest ourselves, there has always been a side of us that we are scared of showing other people. We are embarrassed that if we act improperly, especially in front of somebody we like, they might think we’re stupid. Well guess what? Part of the reason why the jerks come off as fun is because they don’t care about what other people think! They won’t hold off on any jokes, even if it pokes fun at the girl and even steer the conversation into more “sensitive” topics.
4) Jerks are honest about what they want: Alright ladies, how many times have you made friends with a guy, who seemed like the chillest person in the world that you can confide everything in, share all your pain and personal stories, then to suddenly out of nowhere have him confess his undying love for you? (I am laughing a little bit inside right now… especially since I am one of those guys too… lol) Don’t you girls feel so betrayed? Confused? Put on the spot not knowing what to do? Let me just ask you this, guys. What if a girl did the same thing to you? Who you believed was your best friend, sorta like a sister to you? Alright, maybe not convincing enough… let me ask this again. Guys, what if your SISTER told you she loved you and wanted to have babies with you!??!? Yes, that’s exactly how shocked the girls feel when you guys try to fly in under the radar.
Girls aren’t looking for a brother to marry, they are looking for a man.
Another reason why so many women are getting with jerks is because too many of you brothers are trying to be… brothers. STOP IT!! (I am laughing a little bit inside again)
5) Jerks safeguard their self esteem: And finally, we have our last reason why this whole stereotype about why guys are girls worst enemies. When jerks get rejected by girls, THEY MOVE ON! They completely ignore the whole idea of feeling rejection because… THEY DO NOT CARE! In fact, they think it’s the girl who’s missing out. Guys, I know you just want to be nice and sensitive, I dig that… but… for lack of better words… grow some balls :)
So what if she said no? You might be wondering, “maybe she is just confused?” However, that is not the case. No will mean no, it will always mean no, it does not mean, “no, let me think about it and get back to you.” If she rejects you, be a man… do the right thing and walk it out. Just let go of your pride and understand that God has not yet led you to the right person yet.
So why is it that men are viewed as dogs? Well, because “nice guys” keep flying under the radar while the jerks are swooping in to the target!
For all you “nice guys” who think you need to become a jerk to get a girl… Don’t! That will just make this whole stereotype more viral than it already is. Besides, isn’t it good that nice guys “finish last?” hahahahahahahaha oh gosh, i am gonna get so much crap for that…
